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Dorla
05-12-05, 10:33 AM
This happened at my high school!! I attached the story from my home town newspaper, but it's also on AP (http://news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story&u=/ap/20050512/ap_on_fe_st/prom_dress_dispute_2), USA Today (http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2005-05-12-prom-dress_x.htm?csp=34) and others. The home town one has a bit more info.


Badger student battles for rights (http://www.lakegenevanews.net/1editorialbody.lasso?-token.folder=2005-05-12&-token.story=125306.112112&-token.subpub=)

May 12, 2005 - By Lisa Seiser/Lake Geneva Regional News

Badger High School senior Kerry Lofy didn't see anything wrong with wearing a formal dress to prom Saturday night, but he said school leaders didn't agree with his self-expression.

Now, Lofy is taking his claims of a First Amendment rights violation to the local newspapers and television media.

Lofy was expected to talk to a Milwaukee television station Wednesday afternoon about what happened at the prom involving the Badger administration and Lofy's belief that his free speech rights were denied. Lofy also has contacted the American Civil Liberties Union.

Lofy said he was thrown out of the prom Saturday during the "dance-off" when he took off the tuxedo which was covering the dress he was wearing underneath. He was immediately removed from the Riviera by school officials.

The next day, Lofy received a three-day out-of-school suspension. He also was cited for disorderly conduct.

"I want to get my story out there as to how unfair and unjust the school is," Lofy said. "There are laws in my favor."

Lofy said he should have been able to wear a formal dress to the prom if he wanted to.

"The school is out of line on this," Lofy said. "They have no rights to stop me from going to prom in my chosen outfit."

School officials, including Superintendent Dr. James Gottinger disagreed with Lofy's belief his First Amendment rights were violated.

"It is not a right to be able to go to prom or participate in sports," Gottinger said. "We get to set the standard of appropriate dress."

Based on a case in 1969, which dealt with students who wore armbands to a school in Des Moines, Iowa, to silently protest the Vietnam War, the U.S. Supreme Court said that Constitutional rights to extend to students when they are on public school property.

The Tinker vs. Des Moines Independent School District case Supreme Court decision stated that First Amendment rights of freedom of speech should not be shed by students or teachers when they enter the school.

However, the Supreme Court also stated in the case that public schools must justify any attempts to suppress or punish speech. According to the ruling, they cannot stop or punish speech solely because they find it offensive, but they can regulate speech when they show that the expression would cause a "substantial disruption of or material interference with school activities."

Gottinger said the administration believed Lofy's attire to be a disruption of the prom event.

"We have an event here that is to be special," Gottinger said. "I think a judgement was made by the administration that was appropriate. The dress was inappropriate, made a mockery of the event and was a disruption."

Lofy, who has worn dresses to other school functions, said he just wanted to do something different and get a laugh by wearing a dress and attending the event with his homosexual friend.

Days before the prom, the school administration's concern about Lofy's possibility of wearing a dress became apparent.

According to Lofy, last Thursday, Lofy purchased his tickets to the prom and asked what the dress code was.

He was told it was a formal dance and to wear appropriate clothing. At that time, he was told to not wear a dress to the event.

Lofy said on Saturday, he started to believe the school's demand for him to not wear a dress was wrong.

He wore the dress to the Riviera Saturday night and was not allowed in. Minutes later, after putting on a tuxedo over the dress, he was admitted into the event.

Throughout the evening, Lofy said teachers and chaperones were watching him closely.

Lofy said later in the night when the "dance-off" started, he decided to join. During the dance off, he was urged by his friends to remove his tuxedo to reveal the dress he was wearing underneath.

"The crowd was going crazy," Lofy said.

The excitement didn't last long, Lofy said, as the police liaison grabbed him and escorted him outside, where he was told to leave.

He was cited for disorderly conduct and received the out-of-school suspension. He also will miss one of his final track meets of his career because of the incident.

"I have the right to wear a formal outfit and go with my gay friend to the prom," Lofy said. "It was something fun that wasn't ever done before."

Lofy, who is not a homosexual, said he has heard about other incidents of First Amendment rights being violated by other schools. He also said other previous incidents at Badger were in violation as well.

Lofy cited the suspension of 10 students of Irish heritage for wearing kilts to school. He said another student was threatened with expulsion or suspension when he wore a terrorist-type of T-shirt.

Lofy said he is unsure of what will happen.

"It's too early to tell," Lofy said. "Hopefully I will get acquitted. Somebody has to stand up for people's rights."

Lofy said he would like to receive an apology from the administration, since he won't be able to relive some of his final days of high school.

"I won't have a chance again to have my final say, or go to a senior prom or a track meet," he said.

But, Lofy said he remains up for the fight.

"If we all back down, nothing will get accomplished," he said.

Dragynphyre
05-12-05, 10:46 AM
While I support him for what he did, I honestly don't think that his arguements are going to get him anywhere. He is a student at that school, and subject to their dress codes; and is a minor.

Dorla
05-12-05, 11:22 AM
Yeah, that is true. I don't know what the dress code is at current proms, but I can tell you when I went there, nobody cared. People showed up in jeans, sweaters, etc. at prom (rarely, but it happened), and no one threw them out. It does sound like he has that rep though.. you know the one, where he constantly does things to push authority to the limit to see what he can get away with, then cries foul when he's disciplined for it.

Also, I don't know if it will make a difference, but the prom wasn't on school grounds. It's obviously a school function though.

Urusai
05-12-05, 11:41 AM
Call me two faced but I dont think I would have really had a problem with it if he was gay himself. That he was straight and wearing the dress made it more of a joke then something they wanted to do. Because it was a joke/attempt to be funny I can see where the school would have been upset.

On the other hand I would rather not see that if I went to that school either way. But I will freely admit that I in no way understand the whole homosexual attraction between men. Thats not the topic of the post however so I wont get into that.

In the end, I would have based it off the other students. If none of the students had any problem with it, mostly refering to the girls, then it shouldent have bothered the teachers. I can see how some of the girls would think their prom was ruined by it. But the way a class grows together through the years they may have been glad he did it too. "Its not a prom until bob gets drunk" kind of thing.

Jaesin
05-12-05, 11:47 AM
Lofy cited the suspension of 10 students of Irish heritage for wearing kilts to school.

this alone is enough to make my stomach turn. I can't see how this is appropriate at all, it's cultural, and heritage.

That being said, we had a straight couple that had the female wear a tux and the male wear a dress at my homecoming, it was hilarious.

Now, would they arrest a girl for wearing a tux to prom? we had at least 3 girls do that at prom... how is this any different?

Koru
05-12-05, 12:28 PM
Any guy in highschool brave enough to wear a dress to their prom deserves a bloody applause for it. I really don't see a problem with it, if the whole event is so holy that one straight guy showing up in a dress defiles the entire experience then they really need to spike the punch some more. :p

Tandom
05-12-05, 12:35 PM
when he took off the tuxedo which was covering the dress he was wearing underneath.

and noone noticed a guy walking in with a really puffy tuxedo?

Yalum
05-12-05, 12:46 PM
I think if you want to cross-dress to a black-tie party you need to go whole hog. Falsies, heels, maybe a wig... Just stripping off your tux on the dance floor doesn't meet the minimum standards of decorum for that kind of event, regardless of what you've got on under it.

Dorla
05-12-05, 01:12 PM
I think if you want to cross-dress to a black-tie party you need to go whole hog. Falsies, heels, maybe a wig... Just stripping off your tux on the dance floor doesn't meet the minimum standards of decorum for that kind of event, regardless of what you've got on under it.

According to the USA Today story I linked (not the one I posted in full), he did go all-out:

When Lofy showed up in the dress, a blond wig, open-toed platform sandals, blue earrings and a necklace, teachers turned him away.

I need to find out more about the kids that were allegedly suspended for wearing kilts. That doesn't ring a bell at all with me.

AngryBearsFan
05-12-05, 03:06 PM
The Prom is a school event. If that kids wants to express himself, let him do it somewhere private.

Apparently this guy is not gay, but has a gay friend whom he attended the dance with. He has worn dresses to dances before (he, not the gay friend). I think there are some deeper issues this guy needs to work out, or just come out of the closet.

If he WAS in fact gay, and this was some sort of "gay" thing, then I would let him do what he wanted....but from the article, he just wants attention.

ACLU??? Yeah, right. Come back when you have REAL issues, like sexual discrimination in the workplace, or racial profiling....

What this kid needs is a 3 year hitch in the military. If I was his dad I would drive him to my local recruiter. Im sure things would clear up pretty fast.

ABF

Yalum
05-12-05, 03:25 PM
When Lofy showed up in the dress, a blond wig, open-toed platform sandals, blue earrings and a necklace, teachers turned him away.
In that case, screw the school. If he was making an effort to look good (and not pulling, say, a Man Faye (http://www.cosplayuniverse.com/cosplay/manfaye/gallery/1/110_1027.jpg)), what does it matter if he's looking good in a dress or a suit?

Caowyth
05-12-05, 04:22 PM
Yalum, you deserve to die for posting that link.

Gyorg
05-12-05, 06:16 PM
I think unless the school can prove that the kid was signifigantly disrupting things rather than just livening them up, the school district is going to end up having to settle out of court. If the story made national news the kid has already tried it in the court of public opinion and won.

Jais Rassiter
05-12-05, 07:56 PM
"Lofy cited the suspension of 10 students of Irish heritage for wearing kilts to school"

If thats true, thats all kinds of F'ed up.

Yalum
05-12-05, 07:57 PM
Hey, I could have linked one of the photos taken from behind. He's got a tremendous wedgie and quite a hairy ass...

Dragynphyre
05-13-05, 05:23 AM
"Lofy cited the suspension of 10 students of Irish heritage for wearing kilts to school"

If thats true, thats all kinds of F'ed up.

The Irish wear kilts?

Deser
05-13-05, 06:13 AM
"Lofy cited the suspension of 10 students of Irish heritage for wearing kilts to school"

If thats true, thats all kinds of F'ed up.

The Irish wear kilts?

Come on Del...you are from NJ. You can't tell me you've never been to the St. Patty's day parade in manhattan. Its kilts galore

Dragynphyre
05-13-05, 06:31 AM
Come on Del...you are from NJ. You can't tell me you've never been to the St. Patty's day parade in manhattan. Its kilts galore

Nope, never been. Call it a symptom of being from the area and not going in for all the touristy stuff - heck, I've never even been to the Statue of Liberty, and I can see her standing in the harbor every day on my way to work. :evil

notwen
05-13-05, 08:56 AM
Ok... he has warn dresses to dances before.

He was told not to wear one this time.

This kid said "Wooho, I can really piss someone off this time by doing exactly what I was told not to!" He wasn't trying to express himself, he was just trying to cause a ruccus. This is the kind of thing that gives free speech issues and real free speech activism a bad name.

Meddik
05-13-05, 09:01 AM
The school needs a all purpose "Don't be a dink" rule.

Kinare
05-13-05, 02:52 PM
I thought kilts were from Scotland but maybe that's just me.

deuce
05-13-05, 03:13 PM
You may take our lives but you'll never take our freeeeedoooom!

Pyrocat Moonstalker
05-13-05, 03:14 PM
When Lofy showed up in the dress, a blond wig, open-toed platform sandals, blue earrings and a necklace, teachers turned him away.
In that case, screw the school. If he was making an effort to look good (and not pulling, say, a Man Faye (http://www.cosplayuniverse.com/cosplay/manfaye/gallery/1/110_1027.jpg)), what does it matter if he's looking good in a dress or a suit?

Why, oh why did I click that link?
:zombie

Aidden
05-13-05, 03:20 PM
im curious as to why both the article and mutiple people in this thread associate being a transvestite and being gay and the same thing..

they can, and normally are mutually exclusive..

regardless this guy is simply a punk looking to be an ass and then hide behind the constitution, and regardless of what he says this could only hurt true causes of free speech, i.e the Irish Kilt thing.

Koru
05-13-05, 04:27 PM
I was wondering the same thing Aidden but couldn't find a tactful way to bring it up. To be honest I've seen more straight men in a dress than gay men, really come to think of it most the gay men I've met were much more into leather than lace. Taking it up the ass != dressing like a woman.

Mardoc the Dwarf
05-13-05, 10:41 PM
no respectable gay would wear a dress...they are much more stylish than that

EDIt : we = they....damn you freud

Jaesin
05-13-05, 11:03 PM
Eddie Izard comes to mind, he has a great routine that deals with the whole stigma about transvestites being gay.

"If a woman falls in heels, it's embarassing, if a man falls in heels he might as well kill himself."

:P