Nenjin
11-01-03, 01:09 AM
So there I am, pleasantly @#%$ up on Halloween, driving to someone's house, when my friend next to me gives me the most depressing news I've heard in a few years.
Him and his girlfriend are going to have a kid. Little background, they've never really been about protected sex, and they had one abortion already. I can't imagine what that was like for them. Now, she's pregnant again, and they've decided to have it.
I don't like the idea of abortion as an option very much, but I like the idea of what their life and their child's life could be even less. They don't make much. He works his ass off, she works 3 part time jobs. They don't have much money. Their in debt. They have just been through rocky times with each other, which I got to play marriage counselor for a lot of it. And now, well, they want to have a kid. He's not even 24 for @#%$'s sake. They are both my good friends since highschool, we've done lots of stuff together(boozed, drugged, partied). And since they've been together at their new appartment, about 2 years, you'd swear to god they were on the verge of breaking it off every day. They didn't like what the other wanted to do, they were snappy at each ALL THE TIME. No one wanted to be around them. He was depressed and cranky and frustrated, she was depressed, cranky, and frustrated.
And now, out of all of this mess, they actually WANT to have a kid. I can't tell if it's guilt about the previous abortion, or a genuine desire to have children and start a family. You'd have to be completely blind to see that they are not in great, good, or even adequate position emotionally, financially, in terms of their relationship, in terms of how much stress they are both already under......
It's a @#%$ situation, and I'm worried this will bring them both down, hard. The only consolation I have for them right now is my friend, the guy, his strong character, and him swearing to me he's going to do right by this. And I told him I'd support them regardless of what they chose to do. But I can't help feeling sad that another two of my friend's prematurely assasinated their lives, their security, a lot of things.
I hate watching people have kids before they're ready.
"They will come back, come back again, as long as the Red Earth rolls. He never wasted a tree or a leaf, why should he squander souls?"
"The road to Hell is paved with good intentions
Him and his girlfriend are going to have a kid. Little background, they've never really been about protected sex, and they had one abortion already. I can't imagine what that was like for them. Now, she's pregnant again, and they've decided to have it.
I don't like the idea of abortion as an option very much, but I like the idea of what their life and their child's life could be even less. They don't make much. He works his ass off, she works 3 part time jobs. They don't have much money. Their in debt. They have just been through rocky times with each other, which I got to play marriage counselor for a lot of it. And now, well, they want to have a kid. He's not even 24 for @#%$'s sake. They are both my good friends since highschool, we've done lots of stuff together(boozed, drugged, partied). And since they've been together at their new appartment, about 2 years, you'd swear to god they were on the verge of breaking it off every day. They didn't like what the other wanted to do, they were snappy at each ALL THE TIME. No one wanted to be around them. He was depressed and cranky and frustrated, she was depressed, cranky, and frustrated.
And now, out of all of this mess, they actually WANT to have a kid. I can't tell if it's guilt about the previous abortion, or a genuine desire to have children and start a family. You'd have to be completely blind to see that they are not in great, good, or even adequate position emotionally, financially, in terms of their relationship, in terms of how much stress they are both already under......
It's a @#%$ situation, and I'm worried this will bring them both down, hard. The only consolation I have for them right now is my friend, the guy, his strong character, and him swearing to me he's going to do right by this. And I told him I'd support them regardless of what they chose to do. But I can't help feeling sad that another two of my friend's prematurely assasinated their lives, their security, a lot of things.
I hate watching people have kids before they're ready.
"They will come back, come back again, as long as the Red Earth rolls. He never wasted a tree or a leaf, why should he squander souls?"
"The road to Hell is paved with good intentions