Why do the @#%$ heads keep the girls?

[EZ_Mrens]

I know a guy, this guy is a jealous, over bearing, controlling, alcoholic scumbag.

Just an example, his girlfriend lent him her cell phone, he went down the phone’s address book, and called every male on it to “question” them, including me, and the girls father. “Who are you, how well do you know her, I’m her boyfriend, nothing have better have happened” I asked her why the **** called me, she told me what he did.

Every time I call the place I dread it because I know he is there, and he always answers the phone (Either her house phone or her cell) and I always get the third @#%$ degree, like he is screening me to see if I'm worthy enough to talk to her, my @#%$ friend! I have been accused on several occasions on sleeping with her (Which I have not, her call she is damn fine) I getting really Fing tired of it.

Every single time I have seen him he has had a few drunks, not flat out drunk, but always a whiff of alcohol on his breath.

Every single time I see her I get a whole new list of @#%$ things he has done. But for the last 4 months she remains with him. WTF is wrong with her, dump his @#%$ for brains!

If I ever bring him up in a subject and what a douche he is, I get @#%$ from her, she accusess ME of being to damn jealous!

WTF, does she just not see it, she must.
Is he blackmailing her? Does he have her grandparent tied up in his basement?

DUMP THE MORON!

ARGH

Hmmm, this should really be in Rant Hall. Edited by: Mrens at: 11/13/03 2:26 am

[Aidden]

you need to quit being attracted to women who like guys like that..

[EZ_Aldarion Shard]

except theres only two kinds: those who admit theyre attracted to guys like that, and those who are but dont admit it. Veda Kai'Rin

[Dorla]

Of course she sees it, but she interprets his behavior as something a loving, caring person would do, rather than a controlling overbearing person. In her mind it's OK, or even if she HAS doubts, she glosses over them with phrases like, "But he's a great guy, he takes care of me" or "He only does this because he loves me so much".... etc.

Unfortunately, there's not much you can do in this situation, other than make sure she knows that you'll be there for her when she finally leaves him.

Oh, and I'm really not a Dr. Laura fan, but her book "10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives" is pretty dead on... your friend probably falls into one of those 10 categories.

[EZ_Talius]

Used to be a psychological classification called "Masochistic Personality Disorder" that, essentially, described women that continued to participate in domineering or absusive relationships (the word Masochistic was later replaced with something else, since it's not just loving pain, it's loving being in losing situations).

The classification was removed from official documents, because essentially it was just invented by guys like you and I who just want an explanation about why the hotties don't want a piece of us and keep ending up using us as sounding boards.

[DarthEnderX]

Next time he answers the phone and starts giving ya the third degree tell him to shut the @#%$ up and put her on before you go over there and slit his @#%$ throat.

Thats what I'd do. "Classes are not that out of balance -AbsorEQ"

[Lisboa]

He's really good in bed.

[Kaielen]

There was a scientific study that proved quiet, introverted guys were more thoughtful and better in bed.

The mean, loud, obnoxious guys were always the 1 minute men. The classic, "OOPS! Uh...oh...let me get you a towel"
kinda guys.

The only reason I even remember this is because I'm the quiet one.

Then again...that's what they say about most mass murderers and serial killers too.

[Nenjin]

Aidden wins!

[EZ_Phresh Prince]

this is an all too familiar situation....

[Nimmbull]

except theres only two kinds: those who admit theyre attracted to guys like that, and those who are but dont admit it.

And there's only two kinds of guys: those that believe this and live miserable lives and those that don't and find happiness.

Anyways, Aidden has the right of it. Find someone with a measure of self-worth.

Nimm

[EZ_Evilmagus]

If ignorance is bliss then perhaps they do find happiness

~Evil

[EZ_Aldarion Shard]

Ok, Nimmbul. You go right ahead believing that.

You can write that down in your "Personal Book of Turths" right next to these entries:
women dont fake orgasms.
women arent attracted primarily by signs of power.
men arent attracted primarily by physical attractiveness.
women dont lose interest in sex after marriage/committment.

Repeat after me, class: believing in pleasant illusions never leads to happiness, regardless of how good believing in them makes you feel, or how scary the alternatives sound. The only thing that matters is "What is actually true", not "WHat do I wish was true?" Veda Kai'Rin

[Koru]

God I do love you Aldarion for making me look less jaded and cynical in comparison. From what I've seen so far the last on your list is certainly not true, or it would not be so hard to get my female friends away from boinking their husbands. As for the first remarks... well, acting like a possessive jealous @#%$ is not sexy in the slightest so me even though I'm sure there's quite a few men and women who for a variety of reasons like to think it is.

[Nimmbull]

har har Aldarion. Good post. Funny post.

I hate to break it to you, but there are actually real+cool chicks out there. It's not my problem that you don't know how to find them.

women dont fake orgasms.

-correct. But cool women don't need to- they are comfortable enough about themselves to give the proper guidance and not accept anything less

women arent attracted primarily by signs of power.

-Primarily? Well, if you include confidence under "power", then yes.

men arent attracted primarily by physical attractiveness.

-Again, primarily? I'm a man and certainly won't deny it's a big factor, but it's not a primary factor- being a good person and having a sense of humor would rank much higher for me, personally.

women dont lose interest in sex after marriage/committment[/I]

-Heehee. I feel sorry for ya. Find a cool chick to marry. That's all I'll say about that... (of course, you have to be able to satisfy her for her to want to continue.)

Anyways, happy hunting. With the attitude you've got towards women I doubt the hunt will be successful though. I'm off to live in my dreamworld....

Nimm

[Pyrocat Moonstalker]

Quote:believing in pleasant illusions never leads to happiness, regardless of how good believing in them makes you feel

erm. If it makes you feel good, wouldn't you be happy?

[EZ_Aldarion Shard]

Quote:I'm off to live in my dreamworld....

Cool. I harbor no ill will toward those who arent ready to accept the unpleasant truths in life. And pyro, I misspoke - there is, in fact, a lot of happiness in pleasant illusions.

I've simply passed the age where I want to live under illusions, thats all. Give me the truth, regardless of how @#$%tty it is. Veda Kai'Rin

[EZ_nekoken]

Aldarion,
Some quality truisms there. I couldn't have said it better myself.

[EZ_Kinare]

My sister was qualified as a hottie, but married a total scumbag (multiple convicted felon twice her age).

The good in bed thing didnt apply, according to her, nor did the big **** theory... my mom saw him naked so it didn't pan out... No freaking clue why she would be attracted to that piece of @#%$. I still cannot fathom it to this day. She had so much potential...

[EZ_Shanar]

Quote:I'm off to live in my dreamworld....

Does yours have Gingerbread houses? Or Candy ones? Mine are candy.. So if you have Gingerbread maybe we can have some visits or something..



Shanar's Fantastical Gear!

[EZ_Thanak Kalahed]

Scumbags have a lot self confidance because they are too dum to notice they are ass.

Nice guys are usually full of doubt, wondering if they are doing everything ok, wondering if everything is right,...

Self confidance is sexy, self doubt is not.

That's why scumbags get the girls.



Thanak Kalahed

[Llabak Tharr]

LOL every time I think that Adarion's view of the world couldn't get any wackier, I'm pleasantly surprised. I'm always in the mood for a good chuckle.

[EZ_Pedric Cuf]

I find it interesting that all the married guys are the ones speaking out how silly Aldarion's viewpoint is. I'm not sure what that means, but it's interesting, nonetheless.

Personally, I think someone's been watching too many sitcoms. ;P

Edit: Just to clarify, I don't disagree that there are some cases where his opinions hold true, possibly quite a few cases, but I know for a fact none of them are true 100% of the time, or anywhere remotely that high... Edited by: Pedric Cuf at: 11/14/03 1:25 pm

[EZ_Aldarion Shard]

look people, nothing is true 100% of the time.

if we restricted ourselves to only making statements that were true 100% of the time, we could never say anything. If my statements are true 70% of the time (and in reality theyre true much more often than that, but lets say 70 for arguments sake), then they would still be incredbly useful statements.

As for why married guys are trying to refute me, I'm not gonna illuminate the reasons for tht quite yet. Instead, allow me to add another item to the list of pleasant illusions that people hold regarding sexual politics:

I can actually tell the difference between a fake orgasm and a real one.

... You do the math Edited by: Aldarion Shard at: 11/14/03 1:44 pm

[EZ_Nazbuk]

Everything I tell you is a lie.

Nazbuk
The Troll

[Nimmbull]

I can actually tell the difference between a fake orgasm and a real one.

The fact you can't speaks volumes. 8)

[EZ_Aldarion Shard]

hows weather in your fantasy world today, Nimm?

[Nimmbull]

You know that there are actual physiological signals, right? I mean, I'm going to assume you do- you come across as such a stud and all. =)

Talked about this with my wife tonight actually- we've concluded that women who lose interest in sex after marriage aren't being satisfied regularly. Can't say as I blame 'em from losing interest...

Nimm

[Jeters]

Nymm, now is probably a good time to learn what Kegel excercises are....

[EZ_mongo mfh]

I have a theory. Girls that like guys that treat them like @#%$, normally don't deserve to be treated that way. Girls that like guys to treat them like queens, normally don't deserve to be treated that way either. Mongo
Red-Eyed Barbarian Deceiver
Noble-Blade
"Classes are not that out of balance" -AbsorEQ

[Nimmbull]

Kegel excercises

Love em. Big big fan. Spread the word! (so to speak)

[Jhani Vandolay]

"I can actually tell the difference between a fake orgasm and a real one."

Aldarion's right.

I can't tell the difference between my b/f's real orgasms and his fake ones. Works out fine for me, since as a woman my only cares are sinking my claws into a powerful man, never having sex with him, and cheating on him. (Of course while cheating I only fake the orgasms, because as a female I have no nerve endings or desires in regards to my own pleasure. Why bother having orgasm after orgasm with a hot guy when instead I can pretend to be satisfied with someone I secretly loathe?)

Please don't expose any more trade secrets Aldarion, this whole ruining of mankind thing only works when guys don't realize there's nothing a woman wants less than to actually have orgasms. Not to claim the status of a "real professional" in any one endeavor has been a small price to pay for the many benefits and pleasures of trespassing. ~Leo Lionni

[EZ_Xanyia]

What I never see mentioned is how a man ejaculate but doesn't feel much pleasure with orgasm, just the physical relief.

Being frigid goes both ways, just because you see "the proof" it happened it doesn't really mean it's there.

[Llabak Tharr]

That's funny Jhani. I can tell the difference between your boyfriend's real and fake orgasms. You women are all a bunch of bitches.

[EZ_Xanyia]

And you guys all pigs, it keeps it interesting, doesn't it?

[Nimmbull]

heehee we've turned into Loveline

[EZ_Panamah]

/agree Aidden

That's not the sign of an emotionally healthy woman. Such a woman is likely to go through life being an emotional cripple. Not someone you want to spend your life with. Panamah's Pet Peeve: It's incoming, not incomming!

[EZ_Peebs]

This girl sounds perfect and it's a shame because you'll never be happy with anybody else.




Ok, so I get a little tired of the standard 'great girl likes a jerk and not me' answers sometimes, ignore me. D"> D"> D">

[EZ_Clailya]

<3 loveline...


There are actually some girls who were treated badly by their fathers or were abused somehow and feel that it is 'normal' when their signifigant others treat them like @#%$. Some probably also think that all guys are the same and it won't make a difference who they are with. - life sucks. Clailya Clearmind
65 enchantress
Tunare Server

[EZ_Dazzler Twodirks]

Make friends with him then take him to a bar your treat...get him wasted take photos of him with women leave under her door. Dazzler Twodirks High Speed Quisinart for Hire
Guildleader of the Blades of Honor
Monsters Slain, Pockets Picked, Corpses Dragged, and more.
No job too small, no fee too large.
Card Carrying Member of The Safehouse.

"Classes are not that out of balance -AbsorEQ"

[Kaielen]

Get a group of friends and have them put a single bar of ivory soap into a pillowcase and then...wait...nevermind, I'm sure you've seen Full Metal Jacket.