Why do husbands do this??? Or WHY does MY husband do this???? Can any of you guys explain?????

Ok so my husbands car is messing up. I took it in to get the brakes fixed. Time for new pads etc. The check engine light was also on. Husband asks me to ask the mechanic about issues A, B, C and D. I say why don't you call him about this yourself...of course he hasn't the time so he needs me to do it.

Ok so I take it in and ask said questions....

Call husband back and give him answers to A,B,C and D.

He asks <as HE ALWAYS DOES> well did you ask him about E,F,G and H??

No I did not ask him about E,F,G, and H... You did not ask me to ask about E,F,G and H.

Well you should have asked him, you knew that we needed to know about E,F,G and H.

No I did not know about them....see thats why I said you should call him and ask him A,B,C and D because I DID not know that the answers to A,B,C and D would lead to questions E,F,G and H....Call him and ask him yourself.

No I don't have time I have to take this conference call....call him back and ask him.

And YOU know that the answers to E,F,G and H are going to lead to questions I, J, K and L.

AAARRRGGGHHH make your own freaken phone calls.

And don't even get me started about the whole "Call the Drs and make me an appointment" thing

Wow! An honest to God guy rant! Is this a first?

This should be interesting...

If he does this often, ask him to write down all the questions you are supposed to ask..

That way you can come back and show him the paper...

As for the opening statement regarding "If all husbands do this" I wouldnt let a woman near the inner workings of a car, let alone leave her responsible for communicating my needs and desires to the mechanic...


Thats just asking for trouble...

The car was just an example. He does the same stupid thing if I talk to an accountant, a plumber etc.

He just can't <wont> take the time to do any of this for himself. And Yes I have tried the write it all down route....other questions ALWAYS spring up. IT drives me NUTS.

Or if there is no question...ha always asks "well how do you know they are doing the job right" Having grown up in the country, I do know how to do a lot of handyman stuff myself, I just choose NOT to so I DO know if they are doing something right or wrong. It actually funny to see the faces when someone tries to pull a fast one on me. Or when the mechanics try to tell me somethings wrong with my car that I know isn't wrong.

And while we are at it....can any of you guys please tell me WHY you all get "racing stripes" on your underwear???

Thats another age old question I and many other women wanna know.

The roles appear to be reversed in my relationship - I'd probably sympathize with your husband.

I get annoyed when I ask my boyfriend to help out when I'm too busy at work to take care of personal things for me, and he doesn't ask the follow-up questions that to my mind would be necessary and logical.

So I wind up either forgetting to do something (like make a doctor's appointment - for SIX MONTHS), or I have to put off work to do it myself.

Actually, I'm the one that usually asks my husband, "did you ask them about XYZ?" when the problem is 'ABC' My explanation is, well, he should've thought of the other issues while he was at it. My gripe is completely opposite of yours. Sometimes, I just can't figure out why he can't be a bit more thoughtful of things rather than just follow my instructions like a trained seal, but then again, he's probably conditioned to just follow instructions by now and leave me to be the brains of the operation. I assure you, it has its own frustrations. Sorry, I sympathize with your husband as well.

They ALL do? Sorry, I can't explain this one because of the 5+ years that I've been doing my husband's laundry, I can't honestly say I've seen racing stripes on his undies.

My guess would be similar to the reason as to why women get red/brown stripes on their undies during certain times of the month. Sometimes, regardless of gender, there's just leakage.

A lot of couples do this in Both Directions.

They each assume that the other is psychic, and can't understand why their spouse didn't do a particular task in the same way they would have.

Of course, Velvet's husband was going to make this post, but then he asked her to post it for him.

Have never had S/O take care of anything I could do myself. (Certainly won't now because I am a confirmed bachelor)

Do NOT have racing stripes in my boxers. If I did, they'd get thrown away and I'd be hunting down some immodium AD or something.

Racing stripes on boxers? That's a new one by me...but most car-driven guys will put racing stripes on anything and think it cool

Here are the answers you need.

A) leave your husband
B) Why on earth would a guy leave his car to be dealt with by a women, that in of unitself is a captial offense and guranteed to return said car not running properly when returned.

Your husband seems like a lazy bum, or quite a control freak... do this do that, do this do that...

At least he didn't suck 37 dicks.

That you know of...

But racing stripes make everything go faster.

Don't forget it adds 10HP, especially if your car is pimped out with a lawn mower exhaust!

I have been on both sides of the coin and can say that its a huge huge help to have my husband do things for me when I just don't have the time. It makes me feel bad when I think to the times I complained or didn't even do it (like laundry) when I was unemployed.

If that man is worth his salt, he lets you know how much he appreciates you.

Oh man, what is this in refrence too, that sounds so familiar!

It's a Clerks reference.

Make a stand, tell him to do it his ****ing self. He'll cave.

The only married woman i come into contact with is my mother... and she is completely inept when it comes to cars. From my not so experienced, foolishly naive, perhaps a little retarded perspective, he should do that crap himself. It is very respectable of you to do it though. Just make him pay for it ot something.
**This has been the completly and utterly useless opinion of a college student comenting on married life. Thank you**

Racing stripes have never tickled my fancy.

My wife didn't so much as have a license until after she moved out and had to deal with her parents driving her everywhere. I even tried to teach her how to drive my truck, which is a stick and she more or less refused but I did manage to get her in an open parking lot and had her starting off and shifting a time or 2.

Maybe they hit a deer?

As far as cars i do not let my wife deal those issues when I am around. (I am in the Military for those that don't know) Mechanics are always trying to rob womens bank accounts.

But for the real issue I think it works both ways in my house. we are both very busy and look to each other for help when we need it. Often we are both guilty of not asking the right questions, not being psychic, trying to hard to get it right so the other isn't pissed, accusing the other of not doing it right. etc etc blah blah you get the point. i think it is people in general and not just a gender thing.

I have not had an issue with racing stripes. I guess my mom taught me well about what to do in the bathroom and how to do it. I hope I still have many years left before these thing become an issue and require diapers.

was it really necessary to bump this up from the grave?

lol I did not even look at the original post date. ^

IT'S ALIVE! ALIVE!

Just like a woman to bring up a rant months after it happened.

I didn't bump this thread....Im not mad at him anymore so what would be the point?

you missed the joke ma'am. Make a u-turn and go find it again.

har - har.

My brudder made a funny at you!

I have boxers with a bunch of Japanese characters on them. I don't know what they mean. They could very well mean, "Stupid white boy. Make small penis, never get laid," or something and I could be girding my loins with curses and I'd never know it.

Next time someone asks me what I'm doing, "girding my loins with curses" for the win.

Does Kel know you're doing that?