Alright...what the hell is it with me, huh? First, I @#%$ up my first relationship, apparently by breathing (translation: she was a bitch) and then I fall into this new one. This girl flips out on me because I said that helping clean up MY FREAKING HOUSE was a good idea, but after a full day of trying to save a corrupted tax file and make an outdated accounting program from the MOTHER @#%$ 1970's work on XP (failed miserably, by the way...I'll leave that @#%$ to the pros) I didn't feel like cleaning.
Anyway, after she (who I thought might be the one) leaves, I meet this new girl who is gorgeous, smart, funny, likes computer games and dungeons and dragons. She asks me if I want to go to a movie with her, and I tell her that sounds like fun. As we're talking some more we get on the subject of pictures of drivers' licenses. I show her mine, she shows me hers...SHE'S SEVENTEEN @#%$ YEARS OLD!! @#%$, God damn, dog @#%$ eating, monkey ass licking, gerbil anal probe!!!
What the hell am I supposed to do now? Tell her to wait until April (her 18th birthday) and then the answer is "yes"?
This is a lame ass short rant, but this is the last *****. @#%$ YOU IN THE ASS WITH A BIG RUBBER @#%! FATHER TIME!!! You, sir, have @#%$ with my relationship schedule long enough! @#%$! DIE! I can't believe I'm ranting about relationships on The Safehouse. DAMN IT!!! Jump on the happy @#%$ bandwagon. Hand me a beer and some prozac and let's GO!
Edit: Damn...I'm away for a few months and the filter and I still don't get along. Old Safehouse habits need to be relearned. Checkmark in the PREVIEW box. Edited by: Kaielen at: 2/17/04 8:08 pm
Firstly, you can date her no problem, nothing wrong with that.
Secondly, I fail to see the point of this rant. April is less than 2 months away, I really don't think that there should be a problem with waiting 2 months to have sex. If there is, perhaps some re-evaluation is in order.
4/10. Decent amount of rage...over something entirely stupid.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you under 25? If you are, what's the problem as long as you don't boink her until she's 18? If you are over 25, it really doesn't matter if she is 17 or 18, she's a tad too young for you anyway imo. At least for the moment.
As I recall, you're about 24 Kai? She's only about 6 years younger, which really isn't much.
I myself am dating a man who is 5 years younger than me (I'll be 30 in August, he's 25 in March)
Just can't touch the goods till she's legal, not that hard - gives you two time to get to know each other before letting sex @#%$ everything up. (Back In Black)
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6-7 years might not seem like much to some, but when the girl is 17 that can mean a HUGE difference. I know where he's coming from. About 3 and a half years ago I met a girl at a LAN party (rather large one, about 550 people), and at first I thought, yeah yeah she's here with her boy friend or something. Nope, she's competing in the CS tourney. Oh and BTW she just started playing EQ.
So we're talking and talking, I'm thinking she's about 21... I admittedly look several years younger than I am, at the time most people pegged me at about 18-20. Come to find out she knows my sister, and I'm like, "Oh, how do you know her?"
"We were in Marching Band together, I'm a year behind her."
"You're... 17?" (shocked expression)
"Yeah... how old are you?"
"Oh." (blank face)
It sucked. But anyway, that's not my point. There's a lot of growing up one does after graduating high school. I'm 27 now, and wouldn't hesitate to go out with a 20 year old, though even now I've still never dated someone THAT much younger than me.
Quote:Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you under 25? If you are, what's the problem as long as you don't boink her until she's 18? If you are over 25, it really doesn't matter if she is 17 or 18, she's a tad too young for you anyway imo. At least for the moment.
In some places, an 18 year old with a 17 year old can be considered statutory rape. Every once in a while, you hear of this popping up, when the parents really hate the boyfriend, and have local political connections.
Also, the threshold of evidence in statutory rape cases, as with most sexual abuse cases, tends to be kind of low. It is really easy to be accused of statutory rape, and it could take a long time to clear your name, even if there is no evidence.
So my advice to you would be: If you date her platonically until she is 18, make sure and don't piss her parents off until then.
Actually, take great caution with this gal - young women of the late teens to early twenties tend to have a very romantic view of the world.
Heck, I thought the guy I was dating when I was 19-20 years old was the one that I would marry and grow old with, my first love, first guy I ever slept with, made plans with... I just saw him again for the first time after 8 years of being apart recently. (told my current boyfriend of 2 years that I must REALLY love him because I felt nothing towards the ex- except it was like running into an old friend)
Guy at work has been dating his girlfriend for almost 5 years, he just turned 23 today. She's 22... and thinks that when you've been together for 5 years, it automatically means time to get married and start cranking out babies. He's really not ready to tie the knot yet though, not because he doesn't love her. I have a feeling she might pressure him too hard...
So, just tread with caution - realize that unless she's really mature, she's still got the Barbie Dream Wedding version of what relationships are supposed to be like in her head.
Wow...I thought I was going to get chewed up and spat out on this one. You guys offered some very viable and useful advice.
I'm 25...will be 26 in June. The relationship would be totally legal in IL, even a physical relationship. I was not thinking with my member, I was more worried about the moral issues of the whole thing. Even though it's legal, would it be right for me to do? I don't know...I guess age doesn't matter, but Dragon hit the nail on the head:
What if at this young age, I grow older and am ready for the big leap, i.e. marriage, house, kids, but she's just turning 21 and decides it's time to drink, be social, and party her head off and that she wants a guy with the same interests? I already made that mistake once...I don't want to do it again. So, I met her mom, and the mom invited me over for an official "hi, how are you" night and the girl and I are going to go bowling, see 50 first dates, and play D&D this weekend ( I told you she was a really cool chick). If anything...I'll be getting one hell of a good looking, level headed friend...or...a totally hot gamer girl for a meaningful relationship.
At least she's not your usual Brittney-esque teenie-bopper.
This is from a female gamer - we're a very rare breed, you're lucky when you can find one of us
In fact, I'm still trying to find one for my best friend - someone that will understand his huge collection of Warhammer 40K stuff, multiple PC's, and collection of Sci-Fi and fantasy DvD's and books. Anyone know a gal in the NJ area in the 25-35 age group that fits the bill? I get to meet her first, because I'm very protective of my friend - not letting another girl break his heart.
Note: Below this line is my opinion. Don't argue it. Your not going to change my mind and no-one else cares.
I wouldn't have sex with her even if she was of legal age. It's my opinion that the first time a girl has sex it is a very emtional experience which can signifigantly affect their life depending oh how the person who they had sex with treats them. I'd be a great boyfriend, but I wouldn't set their whole outlook on sex and a relationship. Also I think the first time a girl has sex they bond tightly with the person they have it with which is a problem for a relationship you don't know much about.
Note: Gyorg has a good opinion that I happen to share.
Gy, I thought about that whole thing too. That's another strike in this whole "at bat". I would never do anything with her knowing that unless...well...it was serious and I knew it was going to be serious for a LONG time.
I've thought about the arguement about how, "My grandpa was my grandma's first and they met when she was 14 and were together for 80 years." Yeah...my grandparents were that way too, but times have changed.
I don't know...I'm more confused about this whole thing rather than flattered that a 17 year old doesn't think I'm some old dork. Lol. (Which I am, by the way)
The thing is that she seems VERY mature. She is Christian and VERY devoted in her faith, which I admire and respect, she takes care of her mother who had a stroke, loves animals and despises high school guys. All of her friends are over 30 and she is totally into gaming. This is either the best or worst thing that could have ever happened to me.
Ok sounds like she's going to be the fall head over heels type and has picked you because you're older and "more mature" than guys her age... which means if you two were to go in a serious direction at all she's going to think that you mean to marry her one day.
Maybe she won't press it at first but she's going to think it. Religious upbringing + romantic outlook = sex means the guy loves me ...and love = marriage.
I guess the girl you asked to clean house is completely out of the picture? If not I'd say try to work it out with her or find someone else entirely.
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